Bad mother. Terrible dad. I’m failing my children. I’m hopeless. I’m not good enough. I’m ruining my child’s life. I can’t….
ENOUGH! IT’S TIME TO CHANGE OUR APPROACH AS PARENTS!
What are we teaching our children about self-esteem if every time we get something wrong or make a mistake we brand ourselves with insults, judgements, labels and criticism?
We teach them to do the same.
What we need to do as key role models to our children is to stop wasting time personalising our shortcomings and instead, focus on identifying the lack of knowledge that caused the decisions, past actions or situation to occur in the first place and learn from it for next time.
The reality is that we are not good at everything. Reality is that we WILL come across challenges in our lives as parents (and in general).
It’s time for us parents to align with this reality and become solution focussed about what we don’t know and learn it so that we can teach our children to do the same when faced with their challenges.
It’s time for us parents to change our approach to life’s challenges and train our consciousness into the habit of accepting our imperfections, seeing the value and the lessons in our struggles and seeing our own true, innate worth to the world.
It’s time for us to lighten up, have some fun, stop taking life so seriously all the time, value the small things, be appreciative, stop being so regimented about life and start enjoying ourselves some more.
If you don’t know how to do this then that’s okay, this is not a judgement on you. It’s just an indication that you haven’t received the information on how yet. Don’t worry, you are not alone. We’ve all got something to learn.
But don’t you think it’s time to change that? Don’t you think it’s time to work on yourself to BE the change you wish to see in your child?
We live in an era where we can learn anything if we make it a priority. We can teach ourselves. We can work on what we need to do to make changes in our lives and we can get the support, encouragement and knowledge we need to make it happen, right at your fingertips.
All you need to do is decide it is a priority.
Learning life skills and the ability to handle life challenges and seek out happiness for your life needs to become a priority for us parents to be able to teach these skills to our children.
When you see your life as going wrong when it doesn’t go to plan, or focus on what you’re missing out on, get stuck in the behaviours and the decisions of yourself or others from the past, or continue to roll around in a story about how bad you or life is, that habit of thinking, unfortunately gets passed down to your children.
The result? A continuation of an unhappy you and the creation of an unhappy child.
Both of you deserve more. Make it a point to seek out the knowledge you need to start teaching yourself the life skills you need to enjoy it, embrace the challenges and feel confident in who you are, flaws and all.
The mission of the Parental Stress Centre is to teach parents how to do all this and more. Let’s change our child’s generation by first changing ourselves and OUR approach to life so we can pass this knowledge down to our kids.
Nothing changes unless something changes. We want world peace (or at least our child to experience peace)? Well it all starts with you.
Something has to change.
The results will not only be a happier you, but will lead to a happier child and a happier society. You are THAT important.
So what is it that you need to work on to make your life better? Head on over to our products page to learn how to gain the knowledge you need to BE the change you wish to see in your child.