If someone offers you a gift and you do not accept it, to whom does the gift belong?
When someone passes judgement on you, know that their judgement doesn’t mean anything about you. It means everything about them and what they believe about life.
The only way that someone can affect you with their judgement is if they trigger something within you that already exists. You must already have believed you are what they say, or fear that you could become that, or you feel resistant to ever being that way.
There will be some belief that resides in you that has triggered your response, otherwise you would just shrug it off and not think twice about it. “That’s just their belief,” you would say.
If someone offers you the gift of their criticism and you don’t accept it, it remains theirs not yours. You always have that choice.