Have you ever had days where you just don’t feel like doing the things that you have to do as a mum?
Here I am today, sitting in my already tidy (but not entirely clean) house in complete denial with the reality that I have to do certain motherly duties like answer 3 billion questions, get up and tend to hunger requests, play games with my children or just do some housework coz it seems to be the only way that they leave me alone.
No, today I dont want to do any of it. There is no real reason why I don’t want to do it. They aren’t misbehaving. They aren’t having tantrums or being difficult. They are just being children and it is my job right now to tend to their needs as their mum…….only I don’t want to 🙁
In my role as a coach I consistently teach mums that the cause of all stress is the conflict between belief and reality. We have conversations in our minds (beliefs) that is in conflict with the reality that is playing out in front of them.
Well right now I am in conflict with the reality that is in front of me, that I am a mum responsible for a 4 & 5yr old – solving fights, occupying my children (because they are so bored that it’s the only way I can stay sane), make them snacks and look after them instead of doing some adult fun things like having a long afternoon out with my girlfriends or seeing a movie, or just having the liberty to just do whatever takes my fancy.
I am observing the conversations in my mind saying that I want to be doing these things instead of listening to the whingeing and fighting of my children and I am fighting with the logic that if I just sit down and play a game with them it would completely change their behaviour, yet my mind is saying that I don’t want to do this either. I am also feeling and observing how my anger levels are rising and trying to explode out of me tempting me to take this anger out on my kids everytime the interrupt me or ask me to get up and do something.
However, I’m not going to let that happen. Because what I need to do is accept the reality that this is the job that I have right now, that there are other times that I can pursue my personal interests and right now, in this moment, I have to accept the realty of being a mum and think about it another way, because replaying the conversation in my mind that I don’t want to do this right now, only serves to make it more stressful.
So off I go, back to my reality, and off to play some snap with my beautiful little kiddlies instead of turning into the cranky red eyed monster mum that I will undoubtedly turn into if I continue to play these pointless conversations in my mind.
Happy Easter Everyone